I was divorced and living in Sydney and still trying to come to terms with how my former wife had completely turned my life upside down when; 3 months pregnant with our 4th child had asked me to leave. Initially it had been an amicible, if not heart wrenching period but over the next few months and long after my daughters birth my ex became more and more aggressive and spiteful towards me. [Hell hath no fury like a woman's wrath] Amen to that.
The long and the short of it was that I felt rather emasculated by the whole experience and while I did want to enter into another relationship I was beginning to question my manhood my value as a person and needed to know if I could still love or be loved.
I guess the prudes out their can have their view and they are welcome to it, but at some point I just needed the company of a woman and in a strange kind of male logic I figured that I would avail the "services" of a woman whom knew it was just a base male need not a relationship rather than get into a relationship for sexual fulfilment . I didn't want to get into another relationship yet, and had kept holding on to this idea that I could win my wife back and get our family together again. At the same time my male drives were... well driving. We had been separated for over 2 years by now.
The crunch had come when I had returned from a 12 month work stint in Saudi Arabia (during which time my wife sent the divorce papers through to the solicitor). My 4 year old daughter came running up to me as I arrived at the family house and said, "Daddy we have a new sister!".
the penny dropped.
My wife had her boyfriend's baby while I was away - hence the need for a quick divorce.
Anyway the Thai lady who came round late that night for a fee ...
I treated her like a princess and pretended in my own mind that she was my girlfriend. I had never meet such a wonderful giving person and I had probably the most incredibly time I think I had had up until that time. Except for the fact that it was for hire I couldn't have dreamed of a more perfect time.
She ended up staying till the morning and rang and told her minders that she was okay.
I met her a couple more times after that and on the third night she actually paid her boss for the "service". We became great friends and bizzarely enough I never once felt jealsous or worried about whomever else she would have been seeing during her working week.
She was the most giving, loving and adoring person I had ever met. I started hanging out with all her friends and co- workers and I was usually the only non Asian in the house.
Over a period of two years I had the most sublime time I had ever had. At one point she was helping me out with money as I came on hard times and the net of that is that any money I had paid for services was repaid many times over. She never asked me for anything, showered me with gifts and just always wanted me to "come pick me" at crazy hours in the morning when she had finished her shift.
Hey I'm not proud of supporting an industry which taked advantage of woman but she may have saved me from having a breakdown the way I was being treated by the ex.
It is a grimey industry and particularly the way foreign nationals are manipulated by the pimps and owners.
Unfortunately for me she had overstayed her visa and eventually the authorities caught up and she had to leave in a bit of a hurry back home. We have lost contact over the years but in many ways I think the relationship I had in that brief period was far more memorable and sweet than any other I have had up to that point and in fact until today.
Oh I have had some conventional relationships since then and the most recent with a caucasian lady for 5 years who probably to her credit help put some trust back into my relationships with [euro] women.
I had been faithful to my wife up until I had returned from Saudi - in fact I have been faithful to all my girlfriends period. Its rather strange when you have an escort as a girlfriend - you just have to get over it if you want your friendship to work.
Who is going to cast the first stone then.
Is my former wife the adulterer
Am I a low life scum
Is my escort girlfriend the scurge of society.
I think in reality life is far too complex to have such a knee jerk reaction to it.
I still love my ex wife God bless her - she is a wonderful mother to our 4 children ( her 5 children). I don't judge her or hold a grudge. It is what is. Life can be like that sometimes.
I would have married my escort girlfriend in a heartbeat if I had had the opportunity and circumstances.
As for me well I guess I just have fallen in love with the Thai persona and am completely besotted - like our luckless friend in the previous post with Thai women.
But as others have observed its probably more about where your heart is in the relationship and your motivations. As I said earlier I treated my Whore like a princess to be ruthless and to be equally ruthless my darling ex acted like a whore.
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