Ok, at the risk of being totally blasted for this, I really need some advice. I have been happily married to my Thai Wife for 31 years. On our last two summer trips to Udon Thani, I became really close with my wifes sister. Now my wife doesn't want to retire in Thailand because she fears (actually is jealous) of her little sister. I must admit if I wasn't married, I would certainly chase her sister. HELP!!

Just my two cents worth, knowing the jealous nature of women, you must ask a question. What is worth more, my moving to Thailand or my marriage? It is a question only you can answer.

who do you love? your wife or her sister?.............................

good luck to you..

Hope your wife does not read this forum. Leave her sister alone.

The grass usually seems greener on the other side only thing is when you jump over it, it actually is the same colour.

Fancying another woman is one thing... But her sister? Call me old-fashioned but I just can't see the happy ending.

One way to make a huge mess

You could just as easily become close with someone outside the family

Still a mess but smaller

31 years is a long time,
the cards are in your hands, play wisely

i am sure you dont want a Family Feud to start Brewing...you dont ...right

Agree with all the above, particularly the grass is always greener and stay away from the sister.

Even if you changed horses, and lost your wife of 31 years!!!! - both would subsequently resent it, as well as the whole family. Recipe for a mess.

If you want to move to LOS, why not pick somewhere a very long way from the sister.

You really didn't need to ask this question you knew the answer. If you as you say are happily married then stay that way that is very rare these days Personally I wouldn't risk that for anything.

Might ask yourself what interest does liitle sister have in her sisters husband and why.

You might also ask yourself is she is willing to interfere in her sister's hapiness, what would she do to you.

We all have fantacies, but in the end they are all plumbed the same way. But thier character and honesty is usually very different.

Udon is a great place for retirement, but it's not the only place in Thailand. Why would you want to live close to the family anyway?

Privacy is something to protect here.

sounds like competition between sister chasing the same man
I must confess I did not read the entire post only the last few post
my nephew who was married to a nice P/R girl sister was giving him B/J
guess what sister told sister every thing and guess what he lost every thing in divorce court
from the few post I read it seems like they are giving you very good advice
enjoy the BJ as long as it not from your sister in law

Aircraftdoc wrote:Ok, at the risk of being totally blasted for this, I really need some advice. I have been happily married to my Thai Wife for 31 years. On our last two summer trips to Udon Thani, I became really close with my wifes sister. Now my wife doesn't want to retire in Thailand because she fears (actually is jealous) of her little sister. I must admit if I wasn't married, I would certainly chase her sister. HELP!!

Happily married for 31 years...why throw it away? It's a no brainer for me

Look back at all those years you've spent together. Ask yourself 'Has she been good to me? Has she been there for me during the bad times? Will she be there for me when I am old and wrinkly? etc. etc. If you think the answer is yes, then why would you want to be an as.shole to her and throw that away?

Unless you are an as.shole...

Aircraftdoc, are you kidding

Aircraftdoc wrote:Ok, at the risk of being totally blasted for this, I really need some advice. I have been happily married to my Thai Wife for 31 years. On our last two summer trips to Udon Thani, I became really close with my wifes sister. Now my wife doesn't want to retire in Thailand because she fears (actually is jealous) of her little sister. I must admit if I wasn't married, I would certainly chase her sister. HELP!!

you said it your self ,you have been happily married for 31 years.
if you are happy ,dont go there.
it is just not worth it.

Why choose ? an mia noy can bee nice to have, but maybe not your wifes sister.

Why not consider retiring to a different part of Thailand (maybe somewhere by the sea, like Cha Am or Hua Hin), you get the benefit of retiring to Thailand, your wife is back in her country and can go vist her family when she likes - visa renewals would not be at Nong Khai and temptation is not on your doorstep.