I have taken heart from many of the *gems* posted in the relationships forum, and I am really interested in finding out what the age difference is between the caucasian man and his Thai wife in successful realationships/marriages.
i.e. when there are all these 20-something girls on various websites stating that they want to marry a man of 30 to 40 or even 50 year old man, is that borne out by the statistics of successful relationships?

Welcome to the forum Mr. Peliken.

Not sure where this is headed but sucess of a relationship is in the eye of the beholder. If you mean marriage well I am working on 34 years. Got a friend that is working on 20 years and his wife is older.

I am also a bit concerned on why caucasion. If you say Falang/Thai would make more sense.

Regarding the age issue I think the Chinese have got it just about right.

Half your age plus seven for a spouse

It works for all ages

Clever those Chinese!

banpaeng wrote:Welcome to the forum Mr. Peliken.

I am also a bit concerned on why caucasion. If you say Falang/Thai would make more sense.

Sorry, didn't mean any offence with imprecise language.
Can I say a relationship (defacto or marriage) between a Thai lady and a non-asian man.

Age difference is insignificant as there are many greater differences arising from the two vastly different cultures that take precedent.

well said businessaman, age has nothing to do with it. There is that certain love that only the two people know so well that brings them together.

Pop's

I agree that age (difference) is of minor importance in a relationship, certainly in Thailand. However....

I.e. when there are all these 20-something girls on various websites stating that they want to marry a man of 30 to 40 or even 50 year old man, is that borne out by the statistics of successful relationships?

I think however, Mr P's question was more concerned with why Thai ladies were looking for older men and are such relationships more successsful.

To which I would suggest the answer may be something to do with the fact that Thai ladies don't want "butterflies" or immature husbands, and they perceive (rightly or wrongly) that older men are less likely to be butterlies and are likely to be more stable, (AND maybe have more money) than younger men!

This is what Thai ladies have told me in the past and I would tend to agree, though there are always exceptions.

Agree arjay.

That is what I understand also by talking to my partner's girlfriends. They want farang husbands who are about 10 years older than them. And for that reason - that they are likely to be more mature, financially secure and responsible.
What I cannot fully understand thou is that these girls are all about same age as my partner (38ish) so surely a farang their own age of 38 to 40 is at that mature age. Or perhaps the other thai thinking kicks in that thai girl at 38 is past marriage age so they look for older husband thinking that nobody their own age will want them. One of them is one of the most beautiful, elegant and cultured lady I have ever met, and I tell her she could have any farang she want but she still want older farang. I tell my partner that if she not find farang, then I very, very happy to have her as second wife but then mention of knife and "I chop you" and I quickly say "I joke you"

As for the age thing in relation to love. We are in Chiangmai at moment and I see a lot of real old geezers (70, 80) with beautiful young thai girls. No way in hell is this love. One only has to look at their interaction in a resturant. Old geezer just about falling face first into his Tom Yum Goom and thai girl looking bored and cleaning up after him....but to each their own.

As for us there is 11 years between us. First trips to Thailand had all the sweet beautiful young things I could handle, but when it came to settling down with thai lady, looked for thai girl that was mature and intelligent. And what I have found is that some of the best thai girls out there are the ones in their late 30's. And most know that it is bloody difficult to tell some thai (asian for that matter) girls age with many in their late 30's and early 40's who have looked after themselves still looking like 25 year olds.

Age is relevant only to the outside folks. To the couple if they are happy with it, so be it.

There are many reasons for men wanting younger women. I have heard a lot of folks say they want a pretty thing beside them. Some guys say it makes them feel younger, Etc. Some will scoff at this but it has happened that some want a younger partner to take care of them in old age.

There are as many reasons as there are folks. Businessman and Pops have it right as there are much bigger fish to fry than the age thing in a marriage. When it comes to age it is the other folks that worry about it.

As for the Thai lady, why they do it, the list could be long. You might start with security, getting out of a bad situation, no one wants me, and about 1000 more.

Have told my wife if something were to happen I do not THINK I would want a younger woman. Why? Just feel out of touch with them. Would I worry about someone else with a younger spouse, can't see how it bothers me, or care really.

this wouldn't be mr nicey reincarnated would it?

laphanphon wrote:this wouldn't be mr nicey reincarnated would it?

Rather too polite i would say for Mr nicey.

laphanphon wrote:this wouldn't be mr nicey reincarnated would it?

I doubt it. Much too literate and he is using capital letters where needed. - Welcome Mr Peliken.
Yep. 20+ but the ratio narrows every year and there has been >5 of them.

I think its just a curiosity poll rather than anything else - as most people have said here it bears no relevance to a relationship and despite what other people think or assume - who's business is it anyway!

A little bit on subject and a bit off. The relavance of age.

I told my oldest son when he was 20 that when he was born that I was 21 times his age. The gap had eased to 2 times his age. He is now 32 and it is over 1 and a fraction.

Age is numbers. I bet you can work this problem many ways but it comes down to ??????????????

It is kinda like money. What I consider rich someone else thinks is poor. What I consider poor someone else will say rich.

Old, young, rich or poor, if the heart is pounding, no one want to be alone full time. If the numbers work for them, go for it.

laphanphon wrote:this wouldn't be mr nicey reincarnated would it?

You know I think I will take a wait and see, the subject matter sure leans itself to that theory and Mr. Nicey could lay traps well, I will give him that.

I am more then happy to share my expriences with people there is a lot to learn in this culture. I find this forum great for learning and sharing. But I can do without the approach of a very few.