Pakawala wrote:I don't get it ?! Many of the posts to this topic seem to be made with only one objective in mind... to stir the pot.

I must assume that ALL the members who have made posts here are adults and have a bit of education and world experience to draw from so why do you need all this advise on how or where to find a wife? I'm sure many (most?) of you have been married previously and you've certainly had a few GF's. I'm wondering who you consulted with to 'help' you back then?

It's really quite simple... there's only a few 'rules' you need to follow. First, and foremost, you need to be TOTALLY HONEST - with your intended and even more so with YOURSELF. Don't be afraid to COMMIT but keep an OPEN MIND. Take the TIME necessary to LEARN as much as you can about her and her family (I have a friend who is rather 'moneyed' and so he hired a private eye which I thought was a bit extreme. The point is, he wanted to be sure). A tougher rule to get a handle on is, don't be STINGY but on the other hand, don't be FOOLISH. The line you draw here is strictly based on the thickness of your wallet... USE THE HEAD ON YOUR SHOULDERS, not the other one. Generally speaking, a large age difference can be quite difficult to overcome but, fortunately, if you wish to stay in Thailand, it won't be as big a problem like it might be if you want to take her 'home'.

I had a few GF's before I finally met my wife and made the commitment. I have trouble imagining being any more pleased with my circumstances. While she's no 'spring-chicken', she's the perfect woman for me (hell, I'm 66 so what can I expect?). And people who say that Thai women are lazy need to open their eyes and look around. My wife NEVER seems to stop working unless I take her out to dinner or some other function. Not only does she hold a full time job - Registered Nurse at Udon Gen. Hosp. - but she takes care of her family and does all her own housework. She won't even let me take my dirty dishes to the sink!!

I don't believe she is the 'exception'. I've met several other Nurses and some school teachers (my sister-in-law is a teacher) who are equally diligent and several are single. They're educated, have good jobs, their own car, some even have their own house (my wife, for instance) and all they really want is someone who is SINCERE and COMMITTED to a true relationship. Many have been 'stung' by a Thai husband or boyfriend and the one's who haven't, have heard all the stories. Surely as an educated world traveling farang you can exceed that particular standard, right?

Most of the farangs I've met who say they like it here and want to find a 'good' girl and settle down are not really following the right reciepe. When you're ready to give up the bar-hopping and stop 'playing the field', you'll find that plenty of these ladies (not girls) are available and waiting.