The man from Ketchup wrote:Richard,

It would seem you have started off on the wrong foot here.

Now I read many posts but dont reply to many. Alot of the information here is great. Pick and choose the advise here that suites you situation and I am sure it will help you greatly.

Posting a short and very open question will give you many different responses, some you will like but most you wil not.

Most people have strong views on the topic you raise becuase most have been there and been very hurt and althuo they say they are over it, most are not really. Either by the pain in their heart or financially. Also the topics have been raised many many times in other threads so read them first before raising very open topics.

About being called a troll early on, perhaps you could read the other threads, add to some open thread to get you Avatar reconised and then if you feel you still dont understand, ask the question and be precise with the details. There has been alot of miss understanding here i think that could have been easly avoided.

Personal dont believe there is any problem with an age gap. Yes there is 17 years between me and my younger T/W but I have also had a Long term Relationship with a lady 20 years older than me.

Even if you were with some one born on the same day as you. There will be a trade off on what each person wants and gets out of the relationship.

I think in a Thai/Falang relationship it is a bit more obvious and basic.

Man wants company and girl want financial security.

I my situation I want company and a family. I told my T/W this at the start. She said she wanted to be looked after and that included her family. So we both know where we stand. I told her I would buy her a fishing rod and teach them to fish, I will not give them fish every day. So I have bought 2 Rubber tree farms for the family. (It was easier, they already know about rubber trees.) They are now happy.

So that is our trade off. We are now working on my part of the relationship and I might say I am having alot of fun now.

Goodluck. I hope your dreams come true.