HAVING POSTED SEVERAL TOPIC,S ON HERE,I AM REALLY SUPRISED AT SOME OF THE REPLIES I HAVE RECEIVED.ITS NOT THAT I DONT AGREE WITH MOST OF THE REPLIES,NOT AT ALL,BUT MOST OF THE POST,S WERE AS QUESTIONS BEING ASKED BY A NEW COMER (SHORTLY),ASKING ADVICE.
SOME OF YOU,AND YOU KNOW WHO, HAVE NOT BEEN ANY HELP AT ALL,NOT ONLY DID YOU NOT ANSWER MY ORIGINAL QUESTION,BUT THEN RAMBLED ON,DISHING OUT YOUR OWN PHILOSOPHY,WHICH IS NEITHER PROVED,OR UNPROVED.
WHILST I ACCEPT A PERSONS RIGHT TO HAVE THEIR OWN OPINIONS AND VIEWS,TO OFFER SOME OF THE CLAP TRAP,YOU HAVE AS ADVICE,LEAVES ME BEMUSED.
I ACCEPT THAT SOME OF THE REPLIES,I DID NOT LIKE,BUT THEN AS I AM MOVING TO A COUNTRY WITH A TOTALY DIFFERENT CULTURE,I HAVE TO UNDERSTAND AND CHANGE,WHICH I AM PREPARED TO DO.
WITH THE ABOVE IN MIND THEREFOR,I WOULD LIKE TO POSE THE FOLLOWING TOPIC,AND THIS TIME INVITE YOUR OPINIONS AND VIEWS.

DO MEMBERS BELIEVE THAT A WESTERN MAN (SAY IN HIS FIFTIES)
CAN HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH A YOUNG THAI WOMAN IN HER TWENTIES.
COULD IT BE LOVE OR AS SOME HAVE SUGGESTED,JUST A FINANCIAL RELATIONSHIP,AS FAR AS SHE IS CONCERNED.

Yes, Maybe, No.

Pick any one of the above.

Sorry I can't add more but it is really up to the two of you. Many of us have been lucky in meeting a lovely lady, others not so lucky.

My main concern is that you have a communication problem. Not insurmountable but an important factor. It's not to difficult to meet a nice Thai lady, but in my opinion it's not that easy to meet a nice, respectable lady who has a good understanding of speaking English.

It could be either. There are mature men that have both types of relationships. It all boils down to how you HONESTLY access what is happening.

This is an opinion. You need to ask yourself if what you are doing for this relationship is something you would do in a relationship in your own country. I have seen guys that buy a relationship and basically stay on that track. I have also seen guys whom are not trying to buy love and the relationship works great.

A lot depends on the girl and how she looks at the relationship. If it is a lot of money request or are the request true and honest. It is a fact of life that you are the rich falang in most of these relationships. It then becomes a question of how you proceed with the known fact and how she respects that or just uses you as an ATM.

Try looking at it from this perspective. If you were dating a young lady from your home country, you would still be wealthy compared to where most young ladies are in your country. If you are willing to buy them a car, house, telephone, etc. most would be delighted. The same applies here.

The best advice is to go slow on any relationship whether it is in Thailand, your home country, or any place in the world. You say you are older and I will assume you have children. What advice would you give them in this situation. Listen to your own mind. If it is at peace then proceed. If it is yelling stop or slowdown then listen.

As for yelling on your post it accomplishes nothing except a few laughs from the forum know it alls. Just accept that you put it in a public forum and need to accept that you will get good with the bad. It is a relationship of sorts.

Best of luck and use the right mind

Galee wrote:Yes, Maybe, No.

Pick any one of the above.

Sorry I can't add more but it is really up to the two of you. Many of us have been lucky in meeting a lovely lady, others not so lucky.

My main concern is that you have a communication problem. Not insurmountable but an important factor. It's not to difficult to meet a nice Thai lady, but in my opinion it's not that easy to meet a nice, respectable lady who has a good understanding of speaking English.

thanks,we will work hardat English and Thai lessons

banpaeng wrote:It could be either. There are mature men that have both types of relationships. It all boils down to how you HONESTLY access what is happening.

This is an opinion. You need to ask yourself if what you are doing for this relationship is something you would do in a relationship in your own country. I have seen guys that buy a relationship and basically stay on that track. I have also seen guys whom are not trying to buy love and the relationship works great.

A lot depends on the girl and how she looks at the relationship. If it is a lot of money request or are the request true and honest. It is a fact of life that you are the rich falang in most of these relationships. It then becomes a question of how you proceed with the known fact and how she respects that or just uses you as an ATM


Try looking at it from this perspective. If you were dating a young lady from your home country, you would still be wealthy compared to where most young ladies are in your country. If you are willing to buy them a car, house, telephone, etc. most would be delighted. The same applies here.

The best advice is to go slow on any relationship whether it is in Thailand, your home country, or any place in the world. You say you are older and I will assume you have children. What advice would you give them in this situation. Listen to your own mind. If it is at peace then proceed. If it is yelling stop or slowdown then listen.

As for yelling on your post it accomplishes nothing except a few laughs from the forum know it alls. Just accept that you put it in a public forum and need to accept that you will get good with the bad. It is a relationship of sorts.

Best of luck and use the right mind

Thank you ,all sounds good advice to me,and yes i intend to take my time,to the right thing for both of us.
As for yelling,lol,i was very carefull how i worded this post,i put it into public view knowing i would get some flak.But i know i have to listen to all sides,and im greatful for all advice good and bad.thank you

I really believe being your in your 50's and she'll be in her 20's,it could spell disaster.I mean she might be able to keep hidden that your her atm,in probably most cases thats what you'll be. Now if you were to meet someone closer to your age,lets say late 30's early 40's then I believe it would be A lot better.This is just my opinion,and experience.

thrilled wrote:I really believe being your in your 50's and she'll be in her 20's,it could spell disaster.I mean she might be able to keep hidden that your her atm,in probably most cases thats what you'll be. Now if you were to meet someone closer to your age,lets say late 30's early 40's then I believe it would be A lot better.This is just my opinion,and experience.

yes thank you,i do know what you mean,but it also depends on the man in question,wheather he is an old fifty,going deaf,no teeth,carrying his urine bag,dont you think. If he,s a young fifty,then surely this helps.we dont always choose who we fall for,and sometimes its the best way.Perhaps the young lady and i will be lucky , if we take our time.

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SOME OF YOU,AND YOU KNOW WHO, HAVE NOT BEEN ANY HELP AT ALL,NOT ONLY DID YOU NOT ANSWER MY ORIGINAL QUESTION,BUT THEN RAMBLED ON,DISHING OUT YOUR OWN PHILOSOPHY,WHICH IS NEITHER PROVED,OR UNPROVED.
WHILST I ACCEPT A PERSONS RIGHT TO HAVE THEIR OWN OPINIONS AND VIEWS,TO OFFER SOME OF THE CLAP TRAP,YOU HAVE AS ADVICE,LEAVES ME BEMUSED.

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DO MEMBERS BELIEVE THAT A WESTERN MAN (SAY IN HIS FIFTIES)
CAN HAVE A LOVING RELATIONSHIP WITH A YOUNG THAI WOMAN IN HER TWENTIES.
COULD IT BE LOVE OR AS SOME HAVE SUGGESTED,JUST A FINANCIAL RELATIONSHIP,AS FAR AS SHE IS CONCERNED.

yes of course it is possible, but i reckon if it was successful for the rest of your life it would be in the minority...it might seem Rosie for a few years but cracks can appear, but possible all the same.

and why have a 'go' at other posters they are only giving their views which you may feel as negative, would you rather posters only gave positive views or views you only want to hear...Naaaah..you gotta look at it from all angles Dick...and WHY POST IN CAPITALS DICK...It comes across as shouting and don't look good.
And try to post in the correct forum Dick..this is a relationship topic, not an Udon one.
Ta.

I can't imagine any Thai women falling in love ,initially,with a falang man that is 20+ years older than her whether her age is 20,25,30,35 40 or 50!

The only attraction is security!But don't look at that as a bad thing,just be realistic about it and understand it!

Does she like you and with time grow fond of you?Of course,if she is of good character and you are a decent guy!

Is that enough to have a successful loving relationship?

Well it is surely enough to give it a good chance!Many of us must think so as we are in relative long relationships

I think,all things being equal,cross cultural marriages are harder to do as there are so many more pitfalls to navigate besides just the generation gap presented by age!

Maybe we should have a topic on what the pitfalls of a Thai/falang relationship are in the opinion of ''experienced''members

beer monkey wrote:
And try to post in the correct forum Dick..this is a relationship topic, not an Udon one.
Ta.

I too have asked for this before.
Please post in the appropriate headings, it saves us having to move your post later.

Stan let me say this I believe my wife loves me very much and I am 40 years older than her
also I don't have any money all I have is my pension checks and compared to some my checks are very small. I am struggling to pay for the house I am building so in my opinion yes you can find true love but please don't start out by looking in bars were the girls get bar fined you success rate
has now been reduced to less than 10% I also think if you open your eyes wide open you can see if she is using you or really in love with you

aznyron wrote:Stan let me say this I believe my wife loves me very much and I am 40 years older than her
also I don't have any money all I have is my pension checks and compared to some my checks are very small. I am struggling to pay for the house I am building so in my opinion yes you can find true love but please don't start out by looking in bars were the girls get bar fined you success rate
has now been reduced to less than 10% I also think if you open your eyes wide open you can see if she is using you or really in love with you

What can I say Ronnie,some guys are just magnets for love!Congratulations!

I believe I'm a young 52 and my wife 32 and I get a long fine most of the time, however a while back when we were having a heated discussion she told me that if it ever came to a choice between me and the family, the family would come first. You can draw your own conclusions. TIT

My Thai wife told me a tale yesterday of an american here in udon who married a thai lady... Village Wedding, then he handed over 17 million baht for a factory, and all the time she was married to a thai guy!!!! And I believe this all came out this week!!! He lost all the money i believe, she gave an example of something that needed doing at the factory build that actually cost 300,000 baht but the wife told him it was 3 million baht.... So whatever you think wether she loves you or not, i would not spend more in thailand than i can afford to lose!!! You just never know....

I totally agree with Stan.... Why would a georgeous sexy beautiful 20 year old want to get in bed with a fat 65 year old????? Security, money!!!! That 20 year old would prefer one of her own any day, but theres none about, they dont grow up until they reach at least 40, and normally have no money... so I believe thai girl's first choice would be a well off mature ,(non butterfly) thai man.... Rare as rocking hose dung unfortunately... so step forward the next best thing!!! US...

My wife married me because her 3 bofriends in life were ALL butterflies... She says she want farang because they take care and not butterfry!!!! i know this!! i live with it and work with it!!!! but i am not foolish enough to think its 100% about love!!!!! No1 money (security) ,,, No2 Fidelity,,, No3 Love