Welcome to the forum circletak. Far too few Thais, and even fewer women on the site, so your views will be most welcome!!
Difficult to disagree with what you say - especially the "just be cautious" and taking personal responsibility for your own decisions.

I think if you read carefully through the posts again you will see that the majority of posters blamed the falang and not the Thai lady, except for her indiscression

Agree Aardvark but, I certainly encourage the input from circletik and hope we'll get more in the future.

circletik wrote:I'm a thai woman who's married to a white guy. I love my husband and never care for citizenship neither for his money. I really dislike when people stereotype that all Thai women marry white guys just for money which us not true. People are good and bad everywhere. You just have to be cautious and after all you should take responsibility for your o own decision and action, not just blame other people.

Sadly what you say might be true by why do we white guys have to go through 2 3 & some times 4 ladies to find a honest & caring one
I found mine on # 2 but some are not as lucky as I was I wish I found #2 before I met #1 and my finances would have been much better before I married # 2

I agree with Bob Helm and Pakawala. It is good to hear from Thai ladies point of view.

Please keep posting your thoughts circletik. And welcome to the forum.

circletik wrote:I'm a thai woman who's married to a white guy. I love my husband and never care for citizenship neither for his money. I really dislike when people stereotype that all Thai women marry white guys just for money which us not true. People are good and bad everywhere. You just have to be cautious and after all you should take responsibility for your o own decision and action, not just blame other people.

I can understand that it bothers you to feel part of the generalization related to Thai women and negative experiences with falangs,but IMO,you are in the minority!
It would help to bolster your post about your reactions if you shared with us why your different!

Were you physically attracted to your husband?Is he much older than you?How did you meet?What are the feelings about your marriage to a falang, rather than a Thai,amongst your community of Thais?Do you reside in Thailand?How long have you been married?How was both of yours communication skills with each other?What are some of the difficulties you have found in a cross cultural marriage?How have you each compromised on your different cultural beliefs?What is your background ,married or not before,kids from before your present marriage.village girl or city girl,education etc.

Since this was your first post,you must have wanted to make a point and show us that maybe it isn't such a security first marriage.Here is your chance!
Looking forward to your response as it is always great to get a serious perspective from a Thai woman!Thanks

Wow Stan, while I can see why you are asking those questions......if you asked that to me then I would politely tell you to f*** off & it was none of your business

I understand,but she is anonymous and will remain that way and she wants to make a point!If she doesn't really want to make the point,then she won't answer!
Since she is anonymous,there is no reason not to give this info,otherwise her post is either irrelevant or it is a troll job!

Think about it Bob,why would you tell me to f***off,if We don't know each other and none of the questions reveal anything about the anonymous person!

Isf she is not a troll,I hope your post didn't throw her off qualifying herself and sharing with us some information that could help our thinking and help some prospective husbands find ''good''partners like her!

I said politely Stan!!!
If you believe she/he is a troll then I understand the point of your questions more, but (to a Brit ) they are extremely personal & I doubt if I would answer even anonymously - which I am not....
Personally I do not think (hope) that she is trolling & hope to the extreme that she is genuine as Thai lady viewpoints are sadly lacking on this site & was, therefore, concerned that the asking of what (to me) were such personal questions would make her reluctant to post again...

Well, being asked to provide some vague answers to general questions about
the motivations behind female behavior without providing any specifics or
endangering anonymity really doesn't seem to be that intrusive a request?

All of us I'm sure would welcome the honest perspective of a Thai female on
the subject, judging from the level of writing skill in the post, obviously able
to express herself. So, hopefully if this is a real person she'll enlighten us.