I'm sorry to hear that Gary, I'm actually in the same boat as you, and have been for the past 4 months. I was a little sad at first but this quickly passed after a few nights out on my todd in Udon. I'm certainly not in a hurry to move into a relationship yet and I'm not really looking, I'm just filling my boots while I can. There's certainly no better place to be single than Thailand.
My advice to you Gary, buy yourself a ticket to Thailand quickly.

Lee

Hi Folks,

Thank you all for you kind and caring words.

After a few sleepless nights I thought I had come to terms with my situation, only to receive an e-mail today, telling me that not all of the facts had been heard and that there had been a big misunderstanding.

God knows what I'm going to do now. As far as I was concerned the relationship was over. Can I ever go back to what we had before. Will the trust be there.

Why is life so complex?

Gary.

Galee wrote:As far as I was concerned the relationship was over. Can I ever go back to what we had before. Will the trust be there

Gary.

Without disclosing your personal life on an internet forum - I think the only person who can answer your questions - is you Gary!

One wonders if she has now realised what a chance she is throwing away and the frequently used 'misunderstanding' card is played ?

Good Luck in your decision

Hi Paul

Thanks for your concern.

Yes, I'm not going to go into details on here. Have decided the only way to sort things out is to meet in person. Which is probably what we should have done in the first place.

Gary

Well Gary, 6 months is a long time not to see each other. Always difficult I know with other commitments.

If nothing else, you going there will demonstrate to her that you, at least, are serious about this.

Good Luck,

John

Best of luck with your decison Gary

Good luck Gary and always listen with an open mind. That is the hard part. The talking is easy.

Merry Christmas and luck to you on how ever it goes.

banpaeng wrote:Good luck Gary and always listen with an open mind. That is the hard part. The talking is easy.

Tough call Gary I would try to get to LOS asap and have a face to face with your lady. I was in the same boat as you with the trust thing with both the ex-falang wife along with the ex-TGF. For me it was looking into the eyes and going on gut feeling. Sadly I can not give any advice on a long distant relationship but I can see were both you and your lady would have trouble as the old saying "out of sight out of mind" would come into mind. If at all possable go and see her then you'll know.

The very best of luck my friend

My first wife, who was Thai, I met through a friend while in Vietnam. He gave her address in Bangkok. The marriage lasted 33 1/2 years, then cancer took her from me. She was very wonderful woman, she left with 3 wonderful sons, and 5 grandchildren. With all that, I still have an empty place in me the she once filled, now even the memories can't fill it full again.

Pop's

My first Thai girlfriend was a waitress on Samui and i used to do visa runs down to the Malaysian border.When she turned out to be a "wrong un" i felt like a change and went North to Nong Khai to do visa runs here.Wife's family have businesses in the Province and i met her will she was going to Laos on business and i was on a visa run.

My first girlfriend may have been terrible but she taught me Thai.Without that i would never have spoken to my wife so some good can come out of an awful mess.