Marrying a Bar Girl?

Author: **pompui** » November 19, 2008, 7:42 pm

jackspratt wrote:So Pompiu, to you is a relationship represented by blow jobs and orgasms?

Perhaps some of us have grown up, and gone beyond that.

Nevermind Sir Jack,never married a bargirl,any in Ban Dung these days?

Author: **BKKSTAN** » November 19, 2008, 7:44 pm

Dave ,I have been here a long time and I have seen and heard of devastating stories about many falangs getting screwed to the hilt.I have also been around long enough to see a lot of falang assholes in their treatment of wives anf GF's because they are not all ''honest loving guys''!I have also been around long enough to see non-BG's pull the same act!
We should all know that the primary reason the girls are interested in us is security,some others are interested in ripping us off,it really has to do with both individuals involved!
I am a firm believer that a girl that has been on the ''game'' for awhile is probably jaded and not the best choice for a partner!Also,the young pretty girls have the a very difficult time trying to fulfill their commitment to a relationship as many are like spoiled children expecting fun and things everyday or they get bored easily!That is not to say that there are not exceptions,but if you are betting on ''the exceptions'',you are taken a major chance on what should be the most important event of your life!
All that said,what we are hearing and giving is advice based on our experience,but to infer that all BG's are disgusting and rotten with the label of ''whores''is ,IMO,unfair,unrealistic and probably a reflection of overtop moralizing or a mental resentment from a past experience that has not been overcome!

Author: **bigwavedave** » November 19, 2008, 7:44 pm

Jack i dont.. I have never seen a farang being traeted badly by any thai girl, i have never seen a farang lose everything he owns and all his money to any nice thai girl... I am totally wrong in believing that there are a certain type of thai woman(a minority) who work in bars by choice that make a good living from taking everything from these guys... It must have been all along that the guys who gave everything to their loving wives and their thai husbands were lying when the truth came out...

its truly truly sad to hear some of the stories and actually meet some of the victims, and to have people living in a state of denial is sad too... There is this type of woman out there, Ok some people marry bar girls yourself included i am not saying anything against your wives, but im sure if you had been gullible or tricked into marrying one of these vultures you would be a loud voice in my corner..

I apologise if i have offended anyone on here who has married a bar girl i didnt mean to offend, especially you jack. I may be wrong in believing there is a certain kind of lets say bar girl that have very bad intentions towards us farangs...but this is contrary to the facts...

Author: **bigwavedave** » November 19, 2008, 7:53 pm

Stan. at no point did i infer that all BG are disgusting. that is not what i meant at all and that is a misleading statement.. However your post is in my opinion excellent and sums it up well... I am not that good at expressing myself and i realise i have pissed some people off, honestly it is unintentional.

And no i have no past resentment, only concern about the poor victims.. And hatred for the perpetrators, after all some poor guys spends his whole life working for his nest egg and along comes this (BG) and quite happilly takes it off him... i had a very good friend murderd by his ex wife for money, stupid thing was he warned me it was going to happen...

Author: **jackspratt** » November 19, 2008, 7:54 pm

pompui wrote:
jackspratt wrote:So Pompiu, to you is a relationship represented by blow jobs and orgasms?

Perhaps some of us have grown up, and gone beyond that.

Nevermind Sir Jack,never married a bargirl,any in Ban Dung these days?

Plenty of past, present and future bar girls in Ban Dung.

Perhaps if you did marry (the right) one you may be able to get past your prejudices.

Author: **jackspratt** » November 19, 2008, 8:04 pm

Dave any farang who has been here for more than 5 minutes would be hard pressed to agree that all Thai women (bar girl, or real Thai girl) have hearts of gold, and are pure of motive. Many a farang has been mercilessly taken to the cleaners by a cold and conniving woman.

But your posts suggest that only "real Thai girls" can achieve the pure status, and bar girls are utterly incapable of doing so.

There are too many "good" stories which demonstrate that such thinking is incorrect.

Author: **Pakawala** » November 19, 2008, 8:23 pm

Thanks Trubrit, well thought out and spot on. You've saved me having to compose my own response. :-"

Author: **bigwavedave** » November 19, 2008, 8:28 pm

point taken jack i never saw it that way or from that perspective... i was really trying to seperate these bad intentioned Bar girls from the honest good intentioned ones, the same as im sure many of you have married.. I called them whores sorry to offend, but i was only trying to avoid tarring all bar girls with the same brush.. surely it would be better to seperate these evil little monsters from the honest good girls??? or is it better to call them all bar girls.??..

i hope you got my drift, and i do not apologise for name calling of the "by choice" bad intentioned Bar Girls... They are single handidly killing places like pattaya with the very bad reputation and the fear that is spreading to the single guy coming for a good time here... but really who can blame them, we did it ourselves, they despise us after the way a lot of them have been treated, tonight even a report of a stabbing of a bar girl....

Author: **beer monkey** » November 19, 2008, 8:31 pm

She Lub you, you lub her..your older she younger, you are happy she is happy..the sex is good..you are happier and she too...so whats the problem, we all end up shelling out money one way or another anyways. :mrgreen:

'Real Thai Girls'....do you really know their history do you know if they are 'Real' the good looking woman/girl selling noodles, did she used to work in Soi Cowboy 10-15 years ago..???,The college/uni girl is she working in a bangkok bar in the evenings to earn extra cash..?? because thats where the money is for the 'right' girl... just a thought, seen plenty over a 20 year span and still lots to learn.

Author: **bigwavedave** » November 19, 2008, 8:37 pm

trubrit wrote:Well in reply to Bigwave Dave which I don't want to quote as its rather long.I don't profess to know all about Thai girls, bar workers or not and I think any man claiming to is deluding himself.I do however socialise with many from all walks of life. So I would question his definition of whores. He mentions the "poor" girls working as beer promo girls earning a pittance for their work. I happen to know three of them, all students, that have chosen that job because of the opportunity it gives them to meet a "sponsor". In England we would call them "kept women" here more discretely they are referred to as Mia noi's.I also know of another that if "she likes you" and you wait until almost midnight when she finishes, will accompany you back to your hotel for a short time. For this she asks a minimum of 3,000bht. A bit expensive you may think, but you see , she is a good girl, not one who works in a bar. So as you may gather it is a very blurred line between the bar girl, who openly sells sex, and these apparently innocent lasses, who beneath a veneer of respectability are doing the same but at a much higher level.So as my previous post indicated. I feel the job title is not important in deciding whether they are marriage material, but you must decide for yourself what her motivations are, and whether you feel you will be combatible together.Good luck.

Pakawala wrote:Thanks Trubrit, well thought out and spot on. You've saved me having to compose my own response.

Totally different sorry but i was critisising "by choice" bad intentioned bar girls not mia nois, thats part of thai culture, and the girl who does a trick on the side is not a bar girl is she?? full on professional by choice bad intentioned bar girls... not opportunists and chancers..did i miss something here?? Sorry i dont see a blurred line here, between a girl that does it on the side and a bad intention bar girl.... one is in it for extra cash and the other is in it for wholesale cash....and everything you own.....

Author: **cryptic** » November 19, 2008, 8:51 pm

bigwavedave wrote:And no i have no past resentment, only concern about the poor victims.. And hatred for the perpetrators, after all some poor guys spends his whole life working for his nest egg and along comes this (BG) and quite happilly takes it off him...

Yep, a man from the States, UK and Europe who has had a decent education, saved his money, planned for the future comes to Thailand and gets rolled by a Thai girl who worked in the rice paddies. The professor with all his knowledge and wisdom gets rolled by an uneducated farm girl, she must have viciously forced him to hand over the money, thats about right I guess.

Author: **bigwavedave** » November 19, 2008, 9:04 pm

there are stupid people or fools and their money but there are also very clever little (Bar Girls) who take advantage of a persons honesty, which has absolutely nothing to do with his education... How was he to know she was married to a thai guy already, how was he to know that her brother was in fact her husband or her little sister was in fact her daughter, how was he to know the whole village knew she was married, how was he to know she wasnt really pregnant but had taken drugs to swell her belly, how was he to know she had 6 other guys sending her money and he was the gullible one to ask her to marry him...how was he to know that she never really meant it when she said velly handsum man so stwong, i rov you, i never been with falang before, you so sexy... he could be a professor in every uni in the world but he will still be rolled by a professional and replies like yours seem to suggest you dont believe this could or does happen??? Are you new here or something??

Author: **Goldcoaster au** » November 19, 2008, 9:33 pm

wow took long time to catch up after a day.
wow dave your getting right into it good to see.

Well a guy only gives what he wants to give.........unless they kill him for more.

If he gets rolled by any girl in the world.............its because he gave it or the courts made him hand some of it over.

My tw and l are in australia saving for our home in thailand,her parents gave us the land.

So if we build a house and she leaves me ..........well thats the chance anyone takes

its not my money for the house its our money.........but l still have my home here ,
so l dont mind taking that chance ,l hoping down the track everything stays ok.

Well its true you can meet a girl working a hard day job...................but her past who knows if she worked the bar a short time.........some partners will never know.

My wife is not from a bar background..............but l have nothing against those ladys.

P.S my first wife was australian..........never worked ........took alot of money after 7 years together.
she never worked the bar in thailand...............still took my money.

Any girl can take your money not just thai

Author: **beer monkey** » November 19, 2008, 9:37 pm

Hope you are following this one excell.

Author: **Goldcoaster au** » November 19, 2008, 10:08 pm

excell, excell,

Is this a real person or someone with two names?
Maybe something sounds fishieeee about this name , l feel.
why ask a Q and never reply about things.

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