Anyone have experience with successful marriage to a bar girl who has had many sexual partners? Yay or Nay? This gal wants a house in her name or parents name and a SUV or big truck in her name. Sounds fishy to me. I am told that some Udon farangs have married bar girls. Did it work out? Concerned

If you're really concerned, re-read what you've posted and just take a minute to THINK about it.

On the other hand, if you've got lots of cash to dish out, just go ahead and marry her.

excell wrote:Anyone have experience with successful marriage to a bar girl who has had many sexual partners? Yay or Nay? This gal wants a house in her name or parents name and a SUV or big truck in her name. Sounds fishy to me. I am told that some Udon farangs have married bar girls. Did it work out? Concerned

Stay clear of bargirls IMHO,the warning bells have already rung

ok, i'll bite, just to say, it really doesn't matter where anyone meets a gal, i know good and bad experiences that involve gals that were bar girls and were not bar girls. it all depends on the gal, not her job. some are there out of necessity, others by choice, others are pressured. some enjoy it, some tolerate it, some commit suicide. most are not successful in their quest for happiness, whether looking for love or baht.

many relationships work, many do not, whether the gal worked in a bar or not. only you can decide if her occupation is a problem with you. only you can decide if you want to invest finances to make her or you or both happy.

personally, i don't invest any thing i can't afford to lose, so i rent, rent, rent, and everything i own is in my name. i know a few who are happy, and a few who didn't have success. i'm on live-in # 4, i think. i'm sure # 5 is waiting out there somewhere. my track record is about 3 yrs, almost there now, so nothing will surprise me, in my experiences. i bounce well. if you don't bounce well, don't invest. if the gal is not satisfied with you providing a good life, and if she can't wait until you die to get her inheritance and then do what she thinks she wants, i would be suspicous or her motives. but that's just my opinion. i have a cushion for emergencies, and the future if something negative happens. when i die, whoever is with me, or the little one will get that for their continued living expense, which should last quite some time, depending how it's spent. if not with someone and little one not around, my brother will be very happy. i'm dead, i don't care. but i won't spend it now, still a bit young and future is always uncertain, so i or family may need. if tied up in non liquid assets, it is useless if needed. saving and being prepared for the future is not a thai concept, have it, spend it, is the basic thai concept, buddha will provide. sorry, i'm a lousy christian, not a buddhist, i have faith in me, the only one i trust.

good luck if not trolling, if trolling, hope these thoughts help someone else. only invest what you can lose. live as far away from in-laws as possible, and protect your investment with as much paperwork as you can.

excell wrote:Anyone have experience with successful marriage to a bar girl who has had many sexual partners? Yay or Nay? This gal wants a house in her name or parents name and a SUV or big truck in her name. Sounds fishy to me. I am told that some Udon farangs have married bar girls. Did it work out? Concerned

I wouldn't, but that doesn't mean a so called, "nice girl" won't take you the cleaners.

Sound advice from LA.

I know of quite a few successful "bar girl" marriages, mine included. You seem to imply "bar girl" defines the person you may be considering for a long time relationship. "Bar girl" aside, the lady you describe seems to be a bit ambitious (overly so) and this will lead to problems. Given your negative connotation, if I were you I would i eliminate "bar girls" and search in other venues, of course you will be passing up many beautiful/worthy ladies, but hey we're concerned with your happiness here;o)

Excell
Forgive me if I assume that you have not been in Thailand for very long. If you're looking for reasurance that your relationship will survive I don't think they'll be many favourable results. As others have said you've answered your own question. If in doubt do nought. Of course there is always a possiblity of success but if I was a bookmaker I would give you odds of about 33 to 1. Then again if you are a gambling man you will take a chance. As said before never invest in anything unless you're prepared to lose it. Of course you must also take into account that you may end up with a broken heart.
Good luck for your future

excell wrote:Anyone have experience with successful marriage to a bar girl who has had many sexual partners? Yay or Nay? This gal wants a house in her name or parents name and a SUV or big truck in her name. Sounds fishy to me. I am told that some Udon farangs have married bar girls. Did it work out? Concerned

You can take the girl out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the girl ? it cost me a lot of cash , eight and a half years of my life plus a lot of heartache , you don't lose your girl you only lose your turn , but good luck with yours sounds like you might need it

"33 to 1" and if I was a bet n man I'd be all over that.

changster

changster

my first thought when reading, as his usual hook tactics.

welcome back donthani I have not seen you post in awhile My only comment is my wife owns every thing except the ATM card that my insurance policy as for savings I am broke I blew it and I had fun with it
and yes it is heart breaking when you give some one your love and later on she rejects you but that
happens all over the world as for bar girls some of my dearest friends are married to former bar girls and they are very happy and there wives are just wonderful ladies but remember this before you throw stones take a long look in the mirror and look at your past before you judge some one else's I know my past is not so wonderful and I would not want to be judged on my past by any one

excell wrote:Anyone have experience with successful marriage to a bar girl who has had many sexual partners ?

1 who did, 1 who didn't depends on the girl

excell wrote:This gal wants a house in her name or parents name

ding ding

excell wrote: and a SUV or big truck in her name.

ding ding

excell wrote:Sounds fishy to me.

me too!!
alarm bells are ringing!!
If you met a girl in your own country and she said she would marry you if you bought her a house and a car what would you think??

excell, about 4 months ago, you posted this reply to a question about the cost of an English speaking lawyer:-

excell wrote:Got a quote for 20,000 for 30 year land lease, and purchase of house.

..... So maybe you know the answer to your question already, or as this was only your second post, maybe you are trolling...