This is very difficult for me to write but I am literally losing sleep over it. Near my apartment block is a nice little coffee shop with a friendly lady. It is such a nice part of my day as my wife goes off to work and I relax and pop in for coffee. The owner was pleased to see me back and I was pleased to see she has a new assistant. This girl is just so cute… I will not say beautiful but just a beautiful face and smile.

The owner asked where my wife was and I said she started back work today. She asked me if I liked her new assistant and I said she was very beautiful. I was the only customer and we shared some banter.

Day 2 I woke up full of cheer really looking forward to my morning coffee served by this new girl. She doesn’t speak a word of English and I speak very little Thai.

I was amazed to find out this girl is only 18-years old. The strange thing is it is like the older lady is trying to set me up with the young girl. It is like my wife does not exist… The lady wants to get us together and keeps asking me if I could get a visa for this girl to work in the EU.

I go to this shop every day and I look forward to it like some lovesick schoolboy. She is becoming a total obsession… I know the obvious. Stop going. Today I thought that and couldn’t.

Things have been great with my wife but since we got back it is like she is a different woman. She hit the roof that I went to ask about a vasectomy without her being with me. This is a huge issue between us. We are not speaking. She even refused to go and look at houses on Tuesday afternoon when she said she would finish work early.

I just wish I could get this 18-year old girl out of my mind but I cannot. She is beginning to occupy my every waking moment.

Help me please what do I do?

You're either winding us up or you're naive to the ways of Thai people. If it's the latter then do you really want to air your private life on the World Wide Web?

Buffalo Soldier wrote:
I was amazed to find out this girl is only 18-years old. The strange thing is it is like the older lady is trying to set me up with the young girl. It is like my wife does not exist… The lady wants to get us together and keeps asking me if I could get a visa for this girl to work in the EU.

maybe its her daughter LOL

Buffalo Soldier wrote: just wish I could get this 18-year old girl out of my mind but I cannot. She is beginning to occupy my every wan.king moment.

stop wan.king all the time ,you will go blind

Chak wao - it sounds better in Thai, doesn't it. Pulling the kite sounds better than spank the monkey.

If he goes blind then he won't be able to find his way over to the shop... Problem solved.

I was hoping for serious replies.... Looks like I came to the wrong place.

Buffalo Soldier wrote:I was hoping for serious replies.... Looks like I came to the wrong place.

ask a stupid question get a stupid answer .....................


som nam na


next.....................

It does not happen often but Farang, I agree with your response 100%.

The stupid relationship questions and the fighting 50 plus year olds are all in one heap if you ask me.

Farang's right - this ain't no Agony Aunt column. We're married to Thais and that's a different ball game from a normal western marriage. Make a decision and move on if you can't handle it.

BS u need to drink some Cranberrie juice and then have some deep thoughts , its Up to U2, not just her , if u really love her or ur wife.

dont get some brown eyed girl to F**k u over.

U need Committment here and u need it fast

Sounds like you have more than the obsession problem, BS. If things at home were great, you wouldn't be giving this a second thought.

If it were me, I'd get to the bottom of getting things good at home, first. If it works, your problems are solved. If it doesn't work, you can move on and pursue the young damsel in search of a visa.

Just my two cents. That's how I'd go about it.

Choke Dee!

What no sympathy? You know the obvious,if you are married to a Thai and live here!

I agree with everything said so far!

If you can't figure out what to do,you are really a weak and vulnerable personality!

Everybody sees someone that attracts them from time to time,but reality usually rules!

Get rid of the fantasy!Stop going to that coffee shop or go there and tell her you want to bonk her and bonk her and bonk her,but you won't pay

You could always tell your wife about the owner trying to use you!Maybe the wife and the owner will kill each other off and you will be free to get sucked up by the 18 yr.old and her new family pimps and hopefully last long enough until the next fantasy walks into your life!

''A beautiful face and a smile''is all it takes for you to go tits up?You are in the right place!When you are finished and can't afford any more ''obsessions'',you can always visit Pattaya and its ''jumping sites''!Be sure and leave a note to be posted on the Worldwide Web so that you can fantisize while ''in flight''about all the people that feel sorry for you!

''Tough Love'',baby!!!

wazza I am interested in the cranberry juice what can I expect if I drink it
as for B/S question he should be old enough to know the answer. he seem very quick to attack me on his handle and cause me some embarrassment since his reply wound up under my name

ok, me of all people, will give you a serious answer.

this is an eye opener for you. yes you are naive. as suggested, possible her daughter. and since not wanting to link up with you personally, just using you for her own advantage. really can't hold that against her.

now, YOUR REAL PROBLEM. you and the little lady/wife. first issue is children, you don't, she does. sorry, you win, get the vasecomy. because from your post, you and wify aren't even on the same page.

the good news. you know in your heart, your wife is not the one for you, or your thoughts wouldn't stray so much, as you put, obsessive. so that is good to know now, before buying that damn house in her name.

have reality talk with self, and if wanting to make the effort with wife, a reality talk with her. if she is not talking, fine, stop talking to her, and one of you use the door, it does go both directions and count your blessings not much invested, kids or money. until you stop looking, ok, i look, but it stops there. until you stop looking with intent. why be married or in a relationship. enjoy being single.

They say a Woman is as old as she looks......but a man is not old till he stops looking !! Just enjoy the scenery and move on.

Aardvark excellent answer