One last lesson from a friend

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One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: git » November 10, 2008, 9:03 am

A fellow rider I met through GTriders passed away last night, brain cancer, not even an old git like me. You know no one speaks badly of someone upon their death no matter how they lived their lives. But this guy was one of the best people I met in Thailand. Had a place in Pucket and was building a place around Pompasai.

He was on the ride list never made one just to busy, we were both looking froward to the day he could join us for a little adventure, never happened. He always let me know when he wa in Udon and I met he and his wife for coffee. We have all found ways to keep ourselves busy. But I could have found the time to go down and see his new digs. It was always I'm going to. Can't be done now!

What did he teach me don't treat friendships like the a common everyday things they are not.

Take the time to let them know you like them. Give friends time that is all a friend will ever need from you.

Give yuorself time to enjoy friends you deserve it to.
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: Aardvark » November 10, 2008, 9:15 am

Sorry for your loss git, your point has been taken r.i.p.
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: saint » November 10, 2008, 11:26 am

elequently put git , and oh so true . we tend to busy ourselves on a daily basis with what only really amounts to bullsh~t . we take loved ones and friends for granted , not because we are bad people , but because familularity does breed contempt . let your friends demise be a wake up call for all of us , life is short , enjoy every posible moment , dont put friends or loved ones on a back burner thinking they will always be there , cuz one day they may not !!!!! sorry for your lose .
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: BKKSTAN » November 10, 2008, 1:22 pm

Damn cancer is getting around.Sorry to hear about your friend git.My wifes older brother,52,died yesterday from brain cancer also!

I have a friend here in NK that has a stepson,18,that is very close to his last breath also dying from cancer!

My wife is suddenly telling me she has a ''bump'' in her breast!Panic!We will have it checked,but the likelihood of it being cancerous is rather small as she says she has always had it all her adult life!
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: woody » November 10, 2008, 4:29 pm

"life [and death] is what happens when your busy making other plans"

sorry to hear he never made a ride

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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: mortiboy » November 10, 2008, 5:43 pm

Yes It's strange how good hearted people seem to be taken away so early.I had a friend so gentle and kind.Just died with heart problem.No symptoms just came home from work sat on the sofa.... and died.Only 42.I loved that man.His ambition was to live in Thailand with his Thai wife.
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: Khun Paul » November 11, 2008, 4:19 pm

Sorry to hear about this Git, sad and true the old saying Only the Good die young, does seem to be truer now thatn it was.
Sympathies with your loss and your comments so eloquently put has put me to shame, of my own treatment of some of my friends.
Thanks for the reminder old friend.
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: Ter » November 11, 2008, 4:30 pm

Until now I have avoided leaving a comment Git, as i come from a family riddled with cancer and it is painful when i hear of others who have become victims so young. Your positive attitude after your loss is a fine example to us all and god bless you for it.
Deepest condolences,

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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: LoveDaBlues » November 14, 2008, 10:19 am

Had a friend here from Switzerland. Around 58 I think. He married a Thai girl; she had lost her first husband to cancer. Anyway after the wedding he said he felt a little tired. Upon returning to Switzerland a few days later he went straight to the hospital from the airport. Diagnosed with cancer and died 2 weeks later! :yikes:

Because they were legally married in Thailand she will receive roughly 40,000 baht a month for the rest of her life.

hmmmm......have these Thai gals learned how to cause cancer.......?? :-k Just joking here.....but she has lost 2 to cancer and she's around 30 years old!
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: Governor » November 28, 2008, 6:24 am

LoveDaBlues wrote:Had a friend here from Switzerland. Around 58 I think. He married a Thai girl; she had lost her first husband to cancer. Anyway after the wedding he said he felt a little tired. Upon returning to Switzerland a few days later he went straight to the hospital from the airport. Diagnosed with cancer and died 2 weeks later! :yikes:

Because they were legally married in Thailand she will receive roughly 40,000 baht a month for the rest of her life.

hmmmm......have these Thai gals learned how to cause cancer.......?? :-k Just joking here.....but she has lost 2 to cancer and she's around 30 years old!


One in three of us get cancer from the west so it was only good luck on her part. If she has found a way to give them cancer i'd like to know how for my wifeey.
Very nice message from OP.
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Re: One last lesson from a friend

PostAuthor: WBU ALUM » November 28, 2008, 6:36 am

git wrote:What did he teach me don't treat friendships like the a common everyday things they are not.

Take the time to let them know you like them. Give friends time that is all a friend will ever need from you.

Give yuorself time to enjoy friends you deserve it to.

Sorry to hear about your friend, git.

Great advice.
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