Ruktur....After reading the above in-depth post... best bring plenty cash and cards.

Chok-dee

that sounds like a lot of messing about and money , for what is after all just a pretty day out .

I agree Saint...but as we know plenty of Women would not.

Do the deed with plenty of smiles and make sure the wife looks fantastic , a few beers,bit of Music + Dancing(others not me),Bit of Food, More beer more smiles a few photos etc etc.people go home happy... Job Done.

I have attended one village wedding, so I'm no expert and I can't say this is what yours would or should be like. I belive every situation, wedding, and sin sod is diffrent, but this is what I saw:

The girl (late 20's and with one child) met her falang groom (early 50's) in Phuket and has been living with him in Phuket for 2 years. In this case the couple did not need to do anything concerning the wedding arrangements other that buy the wedding cloths and pay for her make-up artist and hairdresser. Her mother made and paid for all the wedding arrangements which included renting tents, tables, chairs, hiring a band, hiring a photographer, buying all the food, beer, and organizing family and friends to prepare food. A showing of 200,000 baht was presented but the prearrangement was that this was only a display for the wedding and the money was given back to the groom after the wedding. It was agreed they would give money to the mother in the future when they could afford it.

I think the mothers main issue with paying the sin sod (in this case) was a showing of the money to family and friends.

The wedding started early. At the crack of dawn the women started preparing food, at 8am nine monks came to the house and preformed the blessing ceremony. Money was given to the monks by the mother.

After that, guests started showing up and the food and drink started flowing. I'd estimate a little over 100 people showed up.

At 10am the wedding ceremony began in the house, family and friends came in to watch but most people stayed outside eating and drinking. A loud speaker system was set up so the people outside (along with any neighbors who didn't come) could hear everything going on inside during the ceremony.

Be prepared to sit cross legged for a long time! The ceremony lasted about an hour. I believe it was the village head man that conducted the ceremony. A group of immediate family sat in a circle around a large flower arrangement with the bride and groom. I don’t know the significance of these rituals (maybe someone else on the form can explain) but what I saw was a string that was passed around the circle and held by everyone, white dots of paint put on the bride and grooms face, a silver bowl held up by the mothers of the bride and groom and of course lots of talking by the head man and prayers.

Then came the counting of the sin sod, a cloth was laid out and the 200 1,000 baht notes were carefully counted out into the microphone and fanned out on the cloth for all to see. The money was then place in the silver bowel and hoisted up on the mothers shoulder (as if very heavy) and she carted it off to another room.

After this everyone in the room took turns going up to the bride and groom to tied a white string around there wrist and give them a gift of money (what I saw being given by each person was between 100-500 baht).

Then it was food drinking and dancing until around 5pm. They had a full band with a singer and dancing girls playing Thai pop songs.

Back to sin sod, like many things in Thailand is up to you! In contrast, another daughter of the mother married a rice farmer in the village who paid 20,000 baht sin sod. For a village rice farmer I would guess thats about a half a years income.

beer monkey wrote:I agree Saint...but as we know plenty of Women would not.

Do the deed with plenty of smiles and make sure the wife looks fantastic , a few beers,bit of Music + Dancing(others not me),Bit of Food, More beer more smiles a few photos etc etc.people go home happy... Job Done.

well my wedding cost me a fortune , i must of spent at least 5000 baht , all the running around i had to do in bangkok , add to that the hotel bill of around 10 , 000 , my mrs was happy to go to the amphur office , to trap me . and we enjoyed what would of been spent liquering up the whole village , on ourselves and a nice week in phuket . got a local road sweeper to take the photos , everyone was happy , except the free loaders from her village . thats what you call job done !!!!!!! L A would of been proud !!!!!

!!!!!!! L A would of been proud !!!!!

YES HE IS.....................followed my example.......did you ? as i did the same, the bkk run around, translation, paperwork, then amphur, submit, sign, next desk, next desk, who has it now, over here, big stamp.........................BANG.............................you're married. no village voodoo wedding, no sin sot. "sorry honey, until i speak thai, why bother, i won't understand what he is saying, and we are already married, what's the point." though i was always informed when anyone got married and paid the ridiculous or rumored 500k to 2 million baht, truck, motorbikes....................PLEASE, save it, i'm not that stupid, and hopefully nobody else is, , maybe not.

luckily, 1 1/2 yrs later, it was so much easier to get divorced and even cheaper. one form, no translation, on back, is fill in the blank, how much for spouse, --- 0 ----, say what, you get nothing. love this country.

Now 2 examples of the way to do it....simple-minimal expense-no fuss-no fancy outfits-no freeloaders-no hotel function room bookings-No flower arches-No Ballroom-No permanent smile and nodding of the head allday to people you never seen before
Excellent....But as always 'Horses for courses'.

Well i'm gonna throw my tuppence in, I have to admit the first i heard of sin sod was on this forum, up until then i was ignorant of the fact that you gave anything. when I spoke to the wife about it she told me she did not want me to think she or her family where after money, which was comforting as i have, (well lets not go there).
I have done the same as some of the above. Three years ago we only did the paperwork side, as we wanted to wait until our joint house was finished. We have some other properties and businesses and the new truck ect ect but it has all been jointly paid for. In a way I count myself lucky for being ignorant of sin sod as I would have felt pressure and would not want to shame her family. My wife has told me that as we jointly went into business and now have more trappings, that is enough for her and her family and they dont get any remarks from the villagers.
Well there I done it. I can go down the pub and have a guinness and a malt.

Errrrr Hello earth to rukter come in come in......do you get anything from all the answers kindly given..?

beer monkey wrote:Errrrr Hello earth to rukter come in come in......do you get anything from all the answers kindly given..?

He's a bit slow BM... He's been asking about marriage for over 3 years. Let's get back to him in 2011, maybe he will have decided on something.

P.S. I know a guy that can supply an elephant Rukter.

So ruktur way back in 2005 did you go for the....




Or slum it in one of these......

Hi guys,

It is me again Tommy!! After some couple of months and years we REALLY going to get MARRIED now in 6 februari THIS YEAR 2009!

I was still young at that time 27 and now after 3 years I saved enough to finally get married! My girlfriend already stays for almost 3 years in Holland and she also works now after she had to learned the DUTCH language, even for me this is a difficult language!

I listened to everybody who give me an advise and was planning all these things but this is still not an excuse for I didn't reply anything back to you guys, again sorry for this!

I still going to do the wedding but not in a hotel at her family house! Now for 150 people! Not on a elephant or a car but just normally by food as a parade through the village.

We have a band there in the morning for 5.500 baht, a company who arrange the food, tables and chairs > total 15 tables 1500 baht per table but good food and 7 dishes! Start at 07:00 to give the monks food after that the parade through the village and then the ceremony.

My family also coming so that I also can introduce them to here family.

We have a 40 inch tv where we do the presentation of the photos!

7 monks coming to here house.

For in the evening we just choose a restaurant with around 50 people and later in the night doing some karaoke!

Again sorry for i didn't reply back but I used your advice as you can see!

Thanks again,

Tommy

Nice one Tommy....you got there in the end.