To you that know about customs in Udon & Thailand......

When I get my self a Thai girls friend/ wife, how much is proper to give
her in spending money for her self a month ?

1: Let say that she keep house and do not work and I pay for everything,
rent, food etc.

2: I get a live in girlfriend that have her own income, but she also keep
home with me, but pay nothing towards living cost.

Just in general, any ideas ?

Bo.

Up to you.

One thing I have done once that worked pretty well was to give her a weekly allowance for her incidentals and other things --- 1,000 or 1,500 baht per week.

When we'd go to the store and she wanted something that wasn't very expensive, I'd tell her to use her money. You'd be surprised how many things weren't very important to her after that.

if she already has her own money, and you provide everything else, then she doesn't need yours. by everything else, i mean everything. her money is for her, the extra things, non essentials that you wouldn't think of, such as that 10th pair of shoes or bag.

now if you ask her to stop working and live with you 24/7, as i have done, provide every necessity, then she will need some pocket money. this way she is not asking you for money everytime she wants that extra bag or shoes or make-up. i feel it a bit degrading to have to ask for things, just give them what you feel comfortable with and as mentioned, when in their control, things aren't needed as much. how much is a large variable, but 1000-1500 week should cover things, if all else is provided.

Ree enjoys making her own clothes, so when i notice that expense out of hers, i consider that necesities, so i'll give her more now and then. and of course when shopping, she though some make up and stuff in with real necessities, which off course i don't give a sh*t about. it doesn't add up to much and she gives so much to the 2 of us.

besides, i must give her too much anyway, in the past 2 years, think she has banked 25 % of it.

Yes Bo, there needs to be some hard and fast rules about these things.

This last month I put my foot down. I was an unyielding rock. I told her
she would have to live on 8-10k per month or it was over. I was not a
bank. It was time to be responsible and set up a budget and try and have
a normal life. She pretty much blew through that by the 20th of the month.

What we need is some kind of consortium, basically a price-fixing scheme.

Thanks guys !

When and if I get a live in girlfriend I will provide her with 1000 a week for
her own spending money, ad some when out shopping.
That is if she is staying at home, to start with.

If she works, she keep her money and I give her a little extra now and then.

Know that a monthly salary is about 4-5000BTH for a normal job, so that seem
to be a fair deal.
Of course if having a high education, things might be different.

Cali you seem to spoil your TG, and why not, I will to when all cards are on the
table.

I also think it is better to hand it out every week, I know women quite well, been
married 2 times.
My daughter have a vibrating creditcard, it starts every time she is passing a store
with woman stuff, no doubt about the same with Thai womans but with cash.

My ex. had more than 30 shoes, most she never used.......
Me, 2 pairs a year if that.

Thanks for your input, very helpfull.

Cheap Charley !

My opinion differs from most in that I believe that whatever money provided to a Thai wife or live-in girl friend should enable her to assist her family. Perhaps 2000bt per week unaccountable spending money will both provide for her personal needs and allow her to assist her family, if she chooses. This is over and above any housekeeping expenses. My girlfriend does not gamble or throw money around. Her folks don't throw money away either. Common sense should prevail.

Astrid to be honest why should there be a set amount that you give your future girl friend should compermise and share in regards on what you both earn.However ifshehas no income there should not be a set amount to what you give the idea of a relationship is to work as a team together and plan a future not treat them as a school kid and give them pocket money
if she need now shoe's buy her new shoe's if she need now dress buy her a new dress , if she is thirsty buy her a drink if she is good she will have your financial intrests at heart

I'm not trying to spoil her, she's killing my rather humble budget
actually. If she's staying with you then of course she needs a
monthly stipend, I personally think 8k should probably be enough.
Since many of her daily needs you're meeting anyway. I think that
4-5k IS a normal salary for an entry-level job. Yeah, they'll get you
on the shopping trips. That 1k looks good on paper but it won't happen.

why should there be a set amount

because many still think we are millionaires with a money tree that just doesn't stop dropping baht all over. many have no concept of the future and saving for it. a generalization, and many have a good responsible grasp of how to handle money. i've had both versions, and happy with my present, quite thrifty partner. though she once in a while gets that 'business idea', sorry, wait till i'm dead. first it doesn't fit into retirement plan, second, business=risk, i'm not willing to take. have enough for rest of my life, don't need more, why take the risk. if no risk, when i crap out, if more than 10-15 years, then that all is still there and more, and should hold them over for long time, if not finding another partner for life with little money.

This post made me smile, as we are discussing in effect to set a pricing guide for our T/g and /or wife.
Well that would be one thing you would never discuss at home, some may of course but to me that is a taboo subject.
One often hears of amounts bandied about , and to be fair, I smile.
What can one do, put a price on companionship, happiness or sexual favours given.
if one does, then you might as well have a cleaner and a girl whenever you want one.
WE ARE talking about someone who for whatever reason decides to stay with you, you agree, trying to price it is contemptible.
If you no like, don't, if you do like pay whatever you yourself think is fair, don't ask anyone else to do it for you.
We are after all reasonably sane, mostly intelligent thinking men hopefully and we sure as hell would not like anyone telling us what to do, so why ask.
Enough said. bye.

I prefer to look at it as a way to make that person happy and satisfied while at the same time learning what is customary. I note that astrid's first sentence of inquiry had to do with "customs."

I took astrid's post to be out of concern. Had he been unconcerned, he wouldn't have bothered to ask.

Guns, you may know a lot of important people and things, and you may think that you know even more things, but you don't always know the intentions of others.

Will He ..Won't He......as astrid has yet to get a GF/Wife, only a few days back he was asking about a single mans expenditure while in LOS.
What say you Astrid, or you going to go with the flow, test out the waters, etc...?

My daughter have a vibrating creditcard, it starts every time she is passing a store
with woman stuff

Where do you get these 'cards'..?

Love the replies from you all....

as WBU said, I only try to get an idea about whats going on and a few sound answer I got so far.

I am not going to buy a TG, but as a newbee when I come to live in Thailand I
rather have advise how to act due to Thai´s expectations.
Like take of your shoes before enter a Tempel etc.

If I marry a Thai, of course I share everything with my the be whife, and in fact,
I am not a cheap Charley, rather the other way.

And to Beer Monkey, yes I am testing the water.
I am a bussinesman and allways test the water and from as many ways as I can.

Some like to missread questions, in my case I try to form an idea about what will
be in store for me when I come.

One thing is sure, I will comferm to Thai ways as much I can and try to be part of
Thailand.

Have done the dating thing and know that I should be in Thailand and find somebode there, meaning that I start as a singel guy, what happen next time will
tell.

I as well have asked about business, directions, an other things on this forum and
it has been of great help to me, things that you do not find in a book.
And reading other peoples questions and answers have given me a lot of good info
too.

So thanks for the good replies guys.

Bo

By the way, I do think that I DO intend to buy a couple of nice bargirls when I come later this year

And to Cali !

Yes you are right about that they get us in the end anyway, thats for sure, they
are as they say, behind every successfull man is a woman, and I for one know
that they will have the upper hand in the end.
And I do not mind at all....

astrid wrote:By the way, I do think that I DO intend to buy a couple of nice bargirls when I come later this year

Best borrow your Daughters Vibrating Credit Card.