why is getting a visa for your girlfriend that important to them ? what happens if we get refused ? what do i do then ?

To some it is important, to others it is not. I've never had a girlfriend who was obsessed with getting a visa to my country. Why don't you ask her why it is important to her?

If the visa is refused, you either keep trying to meet the requirements or forget about it.

Not knowing what the visa requirements are in England or your particular situation with your girlfriend, I can't give you much more advice than that.

Who is them?

If it is important to you,find out why it was refused ,make corrections and try and try again!

If something is important to me,I don't quit unless it looses its importance!

Well since you have to pay for everything isn't more important what your wishes are?

Welcome to the forum, cannonball razz:

As Stan said, "Who is them?"

For what country would you like to obtain a visa for your girlfriend?

Do you have a passport from that country?

What country is your girlfriend from?

Maybe with answers to these questions, you can get meaningful answers to your questions. Requirements are different for each country. Some are generally pretty easy while some are very difficult. :

Use the guidance on UK/Visa site

Have a look here ...... www.britishembassy.gov.uk/thailand
I presume that you are from the UK and she is Thai!